“I feel like I’m trapped! I need to let off some steam! I want to stand on top of a mountain and scream obscenities like a wild woman!”
These were the words I spat at my husband last weekend. The pressures of homeschooling two kids during a pandemic, trying to juggle work, and a new German Shepherd puppy all got a bit too much.
He looked me calmly in the eye and sat down in the comfy armchair we have in the corner of our kitchen. He opened his hands.
“I’m ready. Please begin.” Said his body language.
There is a famous saying:
If it looks like a duck, swims like a duck, and quacks like a duck, then it probably is a duck.
No truer words can be spoken about aggression and people who exhibit aggressive behavior. In these situations the ‘Duck Test’ works.
You can see it a mile off, it’s easy to spot and so we can all give these folk a wide berth. On the hopefully rare occasion where we are forced to interact with them, we can at least be crystal clear of what we are dealing with and what the consequences of…
I’d not seen her for twenty-five years.
And then suddenly, out of nowhere, I bumped into her in a supermarket.
I’d never really understood why we lost touch. She was one of my best friends.
So, when that chance meeting happened, we were both amazed and delighted. It all came flooding back — the familiar jokes, her wonky dimples and those stupid voices we used.
We quickly exchanged numbers and agreed to meet up. A couple of weeks later, I went to her house and had a cup of tea in her lounge.
And that’s where it all went wrong.
Meetings, virtual or in the flesh, must be appropriately planned
Bringing a group of people together is expensive. Meetings reflect the culture of an organization, and they must be productive and positive. Like players in an orchestra, some people will play more notes than others, but everyone is equally important.
Overseeing a highly effective meeting is a career skill. It showcases your abilities and highlights your potential to a large group of people.
Follow these simple rules to ensure your meetings are the best part of the working week.
Papers should be issued halfway between two meetings and at least…
Sunday night. 10 pm.
I was immersed.
Soaking away the rigors of a brisk country walk in the warm womb-like waters of the hot tub. Kids in bed.
The crisp winter’s evening delivered a deep, clear black sky.
Here in the Peak District it’s a balmy two degrees at best.
As I lay in my bubbling reverie, I silently contemplated the immense inky horizon billowing endlessly above me.
Orion’s belt. The plow. An enormous milky moon silently tracking across the black sky, its movement barely noticeable to the human eye.
It didn’t take long for my mind to wander to…
I was 14 when I first went on a diet. I’ve been on one ever since. Thirty years later, I’m still overweight.
I live each day trying to be a better version of me. I dream. I’m hopeless at skiing, but in my mind’s eye, I can see myself flying down a crisp white slope, wind in my hair, and life in my lungs. I can see myself lost in Debussy, my fingers rolling across the soft keys of a baby grand.
The desire for change is there. It’s just that there is a gap between intention and action. …
I recently hired a small team of freelancers for a regular gig working on my online business. I was swamped with applications. Here’s what I learned sitting on the other side of the table.
It was incredible how many people didn’t apply according to the outline in the job ad. They were ruled out immediately during the shortlisting process.
Give them what they ask for. Keep it simple. Otherwise, you’ll be out before the game has begun.
The successful candidates sent me samples of their work. I looked at them all. This made a huge difference.
The strongest candidates demonstrated…
Back in January 2020, I conducted a year-long experiment. I started logging several simple actions on a habit tracker to see if these small incremental modifications would make a difference.
I was astounded by the impact.
The most significant transformation (I don’t use that word lightly) came from the simple action of leaving my phone downstairs at bedtime.
If you want to bring about immediate and significant positive change, I cannot recommend this highly enough.
Seriously. It will change your life.
If you’re anything like me, you get lost in scrolling.
Before you know it, two hours have passed, and…
In the first article, we examined the nuts about bolts of Transactional Analysis and how we can use it to understand and even improve our relationships with other people.
In this article, we focus on the most complex transactions — where there is more going on beneath the surface of the spoken word.
We’ve all been in one of those conversations where it’s hard work.
It’s stilted, awkward, and exhausting.
The conversation doesn’t flow, and you have to work hard to keep the momentum going. There is no natural order. Instead, it’s stuttered and forced.
Such conversations are all about…
The ability to say ‘no’ is a prized skill. As technology grants 24-hour access to our lives and the ability to be quickly available is an accepted norm, the art of saying ‘no’ can be a superpower.
As Warren Buffet said:
“The difference between successful people and very successful people is that very successful people say ‘no’ to almost everything.”
Many of us feel overwhelmed. Like a hamster in the wheel, we do our best to keep up. We shoehorn as much stuff as we can into our days. We go for quantity, not quality.